The last Saturday morning of every month a group comes together. The purpose? Community and healing.
The group that gathers are birth parents who have placed their child(ren) for adoption. Their placement could have been 25 years ago or a week ago. The time span isn’t important. What is important is being understood and healing.
“The group offers a warm and non-judgemental place for support,” said Lisa Cuffaro, founder and executive director of Destiny Adoption Services. “Everyone there has been through what you’ve been through, placing a child for adoption and feeling it down deep in your soul.”
Cuffaro believes that when you have a support system made up of others, who understand firsthand what you are going through, that you have a head start on healing. She sees this when group members are there to help each other through ups and downs. There is a knowing and understanding birth parents can offer each other that is unique.
The birth parent group also helps to empower. Placing a child(ren) for adoption can cause feelings, emotions and grief that are difficult to deal with alone. These feelings and emotions can cause you to become stuck, being unable to let go, forgive and move on with life.
Birth parents with family or friends, who provide a strong support network, can also benefit. The birth parent group offers a community, extended family and support system, who can understand you in a way only those who have experienced placement can.
Being able to identify and connect with others can empower you to move out of your situation, move forward and create positive, new experiences in your life. This can include freedom from addiction, a career, healthy relationship choices and greater financial stability. It’s a soul-seeking experience with others who share your experience.
Birth parents often choose adoption so it would lead to a better life for their child(ren) and themselves. Birth parents want the opportunity to see their placement lead to positive outcomes. As a birth parent, you have done the best for your child and deserve to do the best for yourself so you can move forward in the future.
Destiny Adoption’s Birth Parent Support Group is based on a curriculum we have been trained to provide, which was created by Lifetime Healing. The Lifetime Healing organization is a post placement care network dedicated to educating adoption professionals on the importance of lifetime resources and tools to support birth parents.
Their program and training have been established and tested to provide vital tools and raise the standard of post-placement care. The founder and owner of Lifetime Healing, Ashley Mitchell, has developed this program and inspired others through her own story as a birth parent who struggled with addiction.
In a recent article for the National Council for Adoption, Ashley wrote “Lessons from a Birth Mother: The Importance of Post-Adoption Support.” In it, she shares lessons, which helped to inspire her organization and program, such as:
- This decision affects EVERYONE.
- It doesn’t end with a kiss goodbye and a handoff of the baby.
- I don’t think I will ever be done sorting some of these things out.
- We don’t give ourselves enough credit.
How can you attend the Destiny Adoption Birth Parent Support Group? The last Saturday of each month the group meets in Pinellas Park at 10:30 a.m. The group is free, Uber transportation is provided at no cost if needed and childcare is provided.
For more information and to attend, please call Destiny at (727) 202-8966.
Author: Destiny Adoption Services
Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.