Becoming a parent, whether for the first time or the fifth, is a decision that shouldn’t be made lightly. There are many factors to consider, including financial stability, time commitment, emotional involvement and more. Adopting a child is a life-changing commitment, and it can be hard to know if you are truly ready and if it’s the right choice for you.
Can You Afford To Adopt?
Adoption can be expensive, but the cost of adoption pales in comparison to the cost of raising a child. Rearing a child from birth to age 17 can cost nearly a quarter of a million dollars. You’ll need to account for expenses, including housing, food, transportation, medicine, doctor’s visits, clothing and more. If you haven’t already, do some budgeting to figure out if you really can afford to raise a child.
Do You Plan to Adopt Alone or With a Partner?
If you are currently in a committed relationship or married, it is important to consider how the other person feels about adoption. Are they as passionate as you are? Sit down and talk about adoption with your partner. Explain why you want to adopt, and ask them why they want to adopt.
If you’re on the same page, adopting and raising a child will be easier because you’ll have a partner to help you through the challenges and triumphs of parenthood. If you’re not on the same page, it may be time to reconsider your priorities. Which is more important to you: your relationship or adoption?
If you’re single and considering adoption, think about the ramifications this choice will have. Being a single parent is tough, but it can be done. As a single parent, you will need to consider things like arranging childcare during work hours and creating a support network for when you need extra help.
Is Adoption Right For You?
Ultimately, this is a decision only you can answer. Being able to afford to adopt and having a support network made up of family and friends are important considerations, but they don’t really tell you whether or not adoption is right for you. To decide, you’ll have to ask yourself big and difficult questions like why you want to adopt in the first place. Do some soul searching, and don’t embark on the journey of adoption without careful consideration.
If you decide to adopt, get ready for a lifetime of challenges and joys. Adoption is one of the most difficult and selfless choices a person can make, and it is also one of the most rewarding.
Author: Destiny Adoption Services
Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.