Valentine’s Day is approaching. That can make you think about love. And love can mean many things.
Are You Pregnant and Considering Adoption?
You may be wondering if placing your baby for adoption is best for you and your child. Loving your child and yourself enough to realize this is an important aspect of love.
Love is loving enough to let go — let go of expectations, specific outcomes and even others you care about when it is needed. This can be a difficult and painful decision, but it is an important aspect of self-love and love for your child.
Love Is Opening Your Heart to a Child Through Adoption
Life does not always unfold the way you expect, but often, it happens the exact way it is meant to. Letting go of expectations and opening your heart to the world of possibilities through adoption can be healing for you and your adopted child. Everyone requires love and a supportive environment to flourish, and you can be that person for a child.
Whether you are a birth parent or adoptive parent, becoming a parent requires you to love unconditionally. This usually means without attachment to expectations for your child. No one is perfect — you or your child — so approaching all situations with understanding, patience and love encourages a positive environment for growth. Also, this includes learning to accept your learning, growth, mistakes and successes as you raise a child.
A Legacy of Love
How we love is our legacy. There are many decisions in life that are tough and scary. Choosing to place your baby for adoption and choosing to adopt are some of the biggest and most important decisions you’ll ever make. What is the right decision? Search your heart and let love — for you and everyone involved — be your guide.
Legacy of an Adopted Child
Once there were two women
Who never knew each other.
One you do not remember,
The other you call mother.
Two different lives
Shaped to make yours one.
One became your guiding star,
The other became your sun.
The first gave you life
And the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love
And the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality,
The other gave you a name.
One gave you a seed of talent,
The other gave you an aim.
One gave you emotions,
The other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile,
The other dried your tears.
One gave you up —
It was all that she could do.
The other prayed for a child
And God led her straight to you.
And now you ask me
Through your tears,
The age-old question
Through the years:
Heredity or environment
Which are you the product of?
Neither, my darling — neither,
Just two different kinds of love.
– Author Unknown
Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.