Every adopted child has a unique adoption story. That story is part of their identity, and it can help them embrace their situation in a positive way.
Learning they are adopted can be an emotional experience for a child. Ideally, this new knowledge will be accepted with grace, but that grace will not come out of a vacuum.
One way to help an adopted child come to terms with adoption is by using stories to create a caring, nurturing narrative around the idea of adoption.
If you are an adoptive parent, try reading storybooks about adoption to your child. There are countless children’s books available that tell heartwarming adoption stories.
“I’ve Loved You Since Forever” by Hoda Kotb is a sweet story with beautiful illustrations by Suzie Mason. It’s about a mother’s love for her adopted child. Short and sweet, it will almost certainly bring tears to your eyes.
Books like these can be both heartwarming and educational. Reading them with your child will help them appreciate the unique love and warmth of an adoptive family and help them to understand adoption.
Some children’s books about adoption offer excellent insight into the process of adoption in a way children can understand. “I Wished for You: An Adoption Story” by Marianne Richmond is a cute story about a little bear and his adoptive mother having a conversation about adoption.
“Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born” by Jamie Lee Curtis and illustrated by Laura Cornell is an adorable tale about a little girl asking her parents to tell her the story of how she was born and adopted. Reading whimsical and colorful stories about adoption to your child is a wonderful way to teach them and answer their questions.
If your child asks “why was I adopted”, books can help provide answers that are framed in a variety of educational and entertaining ways. Adoptive families that are transracial or have same-sex parents can share numerous, beautiful stories that help explain the power of adoption – and love.
These stories can prepare your child for learning their own adoption stories. It is important for adopted children to know the truth about where they came from and how they were adopted. Unfortunately, sometimes those stories can be painful or uncomfortable.
By reading optimistic and informative stories about adoption to your children, you can create a narrative that will help them process and embrace their own stories. If you don’t help your child understand adoption, they will be on their own when it comes to processing the truth.
The power of story can give them the confidence of knowing that they are tremendously loved and cherished.
Author: Destiny Adoption Services
Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.