Birth parents choose adoption for many reasons. Everyone’s reasons are individual and to be respected.

It’s important to know what adoption is — and what it isn’t. It is a legal process where parental rights are transferred from one parent or a set of parents to another. Adoption is not abandoning or giving away your baby.

In fact, adoption includes you going through a process to determine if it is right for you and in the best interests of your child. It involves you receiving support and counseling to make that decision. If you do choose adoption, then you review families to select an adoptive family.

You also create a birth plan, which describes detailed steps to achieve what you want for your child and you in the future.

According to the National Council for Adoption, “when you work with a reputable agency, you are more likely to receive a higher standard of professional care and counseling. Your agency should never make you feel pressured or coerced in any way as you consider your options. If you ever feel uncomfortable at an agency you have consulted, you should seek alternate counseling or use a different agency.”

When birth parents choose adoption, it’s often because of a combination of reasons, including:

  • Lack of financial resources
  • Unwanted or unplanned pregnancy
  • Age of birth mother can be a factor
  • Health problems
  • Drug addiction
  • Not ready or able to parent a child
  • Single parenting undesired

To tell the story of the adoption decision-making process, the National Council for Adoption interviewed birth moms to share their circumstances and decisions. For birth moms Miranda and Mindi, choosing adoption was right for them in their circumstances.

Watch their stories to get a glimpse into how and when choosing adoption can work for a birth mom and her child.




For more birth mom stories, visit the National Council for Adoption’s adoption stories webpage.


Author: Destiny Adoption Services

Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.