Before, during and after adoption, feelings, emotions and choices are overwhelming. The purpose of counseling is to help you gain insight, make choices and achieve goals.

A counselor’s job is to listen and provide tools and resources to help you with that process. A counselor’s job is not to make decisions for you or tell you what to do.

The purposes for pre-placement and post-placement counseling are different, and it is important that you take advantage of counseling at each stage. Getting support will help you to make decisions that are right for you and your baby.

Pre-placement counseling goals can include:

  • Identify why you are considering placing your child for adoption
  • Determine your goals for yourself and your child
  • Explore opportunities and obstacles to you parenting your child
  • Weigh your personal circumstances and pros and cons of adoption versus parenting
  • Address your fears, feelings and thoughts
  • Discuss how you see an adoption plan playing out, including your post-adoption feelings
  • Talk with birth mothers who have placed to better understand the experience
  • Gain emotional support and understanding

Post-placement counseling goals can include:

The National Council for Adoption (PDF)  says, “Quality adoption counseling is an essential service that must be offered to all women facing unintended pregnancy. It enables them to make pregnancy decisions in an informed manner, after personal reflection, with all the facts and options on the table.”

Who can help?

Contact Destiny Adoption, and we can refer you to resources for pre-placement and post-placement counseling and birth mother support groups.

Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.Nido Qubein

 

Author: Destiny Adoption Services

Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.