When you’re waiting for the opportunity to welcome a new member into your family through adoption, you may start to feel a little stir-crazy. The good news is there’s plenty for you to do while you wait.

One of the most important things you can do to prepare is to work on your relationship with your partner or significant other.

Spend Quality Time Together

When your adopted child finally arrives, time will get scarce fast. Take some time to enjoy each other’s company (just the two of you) while you still can.

Go on vacation somewhere you’ve always wanted to go, or go out on a nice date. Tell your partner how much you appreciate them and how grateful you are that they are going on this journey with you.

Make a Plan to Spend More Time Together

Just because you’ll have less free time when your child arrives doesn’t mean it will be nonexistent. However, if you don’t make a schedule and stick to it, you’ll miss those few fleeting chances to get away together.

Make a plan for a babysitter and coordinate work schedules so you and your partner can have a night or afternoon alone together a few times a month. Don’t slack off on keeping to your commitment — moments together can slip away faster than you think.

Talk About Parenting Styles

Are you on the same page with your partner when it comes to parenting styles? Nothing undermines parental authority faster than two parents who are not on the same page. It doesn’t matter if Dad said no ice cream if Mom is dishing up sundaes in the next room.

Take time to talk about parenting styles, household rules and how to react to all sorts of situations. The best policy is always to be prepared for anything that could come up. If you’re both on the same page, you’ll be able to handle the parenting challenges that come your way with ease.

Get Healthy or Stay Healthy

As your child grows, you and your partner will be their primary example of how to be. Set a good example by practicing healthy habits in all aspects of your life. If you’ve been slacking off on fitness, set up an exercise routine together and stick to it. If you’ve started to let your diet slip, clear the junk out of your pantry and start cooking healthy meals at home.

Another great way to stay healthy is to plan regular outdoor excursions. Go on hikes or bike rides, or go to the beach. When your child arrives, you can take them along on your adventures. Every healthy habit you create or practice with your partner is one more you can pass on to your child when they join the family.

The time you have before your child arrives can be a gift. Use your time wisely to strengthen your relationship with your partner and prepare for the incredible journey you’re about to embark on with your new family member.


Author: Destiny Adoption Services

Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.