(WE KNOW the term “giving up my baby” Is wrong and does not reflect the heart of any mom in making the best decision for her child)
You are pregnant! You probably didn’t plan to be pregnant (maybe you did) but you are facing a really important life decision and we want to help. First, it is not the end of your life or your dreams. We can guide you in preparing you for what comes next and how it will impact your future. We have compiled the most important and frequently asked questions for expectant Moms like you to consider when considering adoption for your baby.
DO YOU STILL HAVE CONTACT WITH THE FATHER OF YOUR CHILD?
The level of involvement of the birthfather in the potential adoption process and how it affects you is very important to consider. Find out as soon as possible if the birthfather is interested in supporting the child or being involved in the child’s life or generally how he feels about “giving the baby up” and placing for adoption.
We have worked with all levels of birthfather involvement and/or consent so we can help you understand the rights you have as the birthmom in making this decision. Every state is different and we work mainly in Florida and Tennessee and have attorneys and advocates in both states ready to answer your questions and help you with navigating the birthfather’s decisions and mindset regarding your child.
IF I CHOOSE TO PARENT, HOW WILL I SUPPORT MY CHILD?
We often times hear birthmothers tell us that they choose adoption to give there child a “better life”. They often times come to the conclusion that having a steady job, childcare, a safe place to live, financial stability, and providing all the things their child needs is too much in this place they are in life. This is an important thing to ask yourself.
Is your family willing to help financially or with childcare? Having a conversation with the important and trusted people in your life about what they are willing to commit to should you choose adoption will give you an important puzzle piece in determining if parenting or adoption is your best option.
DOES THIS CHAPTER OF MY LIFE MAKE IT EASY FOR A CHILD?
If you have answered the above questions and are still wondering what the best next step is ask yourself this question and be honest. Maybe your life growing up wasn’t real easy. If you decide to parent, do you believe your child will have an easy road growing up and a secure future? We always recommend, for the health of the child, placing the child as a newborn as opposed to trying to parent and placing the child for adoption as a toddler. It is hard on you as a birthmom and difficult for the child’s development. Maybe choosing adoption will give your son or daughter the childhood you dreamed and wish you had and you can end hurtful cycles and give your child the greatest gift. Remember, we have lots of adoptive parents who want to make you a part of the child’s life if you so choose to want that. (read more below)
ARE YOU READY TO BE A PARENT?
Maybe your dream was to be a parent but just not this soon. You might have dreams of college or marriage or career goals and you don’t feel like you can be the parent you dreamed of being. Choosing adoption is not a simple or small decision. We understand that juggling all that life throws at you and your personal goals and now being pregnant can be extremely overwhelming.
So if you are considering adoption and want to talk to someone, we are a private adoption non-profit that will meet with you one on one and discuss your options and answer your questions. We will not try and convince you one way or another. We want what is best for your baby just like you and we are here to help and try and remove the worry, shame, guilt, and fear from the process of figuring out what is next for your life.
You won’t be coming to some stuffy state run office to meet your potential birthmom advocate. We can meet at your favorite coffee shop/cafe or FaceTime or answer questions over the phone. Oh and that advocate has actually been in your situation and placed a child for adoption, so she will give you real life, real world answers to your most difficult questions. You deserve guidance and real raw authentic answers. After all, choosing adoption vs. choosing to parent is the biggest decision of your life and we are committed to helping you find the best answer for your life and the future of your child.