Florida adoption agencies offer a variety of services to help you find the perfect adoptive parents for your baby. When you decide to search for a family to adopt your child, it is important to follow your heart and instincts. Some birth mothers quickly find the right family by looking at profiles and photos of prospective parents. However, other women take more time and want more information about ideal families.
Types of Adoption
Do you want a closed adoption that provides limited to no contact with the parents and child? Or do you want an open adoption that offers some form of contact with the parents and child? These are important questions to ask yourself when you are considering adoption in Florida. You can begin planning without knowing which type of adoption you prefer. We recommend you discuss your options with an adoption professional. And remember, you can always change your mind about the type of adoption you prefer as you go through the adoption planning process.
Find an Adoptive Family for Your Baby
First, think about the type of family you want to adopt your baby. Do you want a couple that already has a child? Are you open to same-sex couples? What about a single parent? Prospective families all come from unique backgrounds. In some cases, religious practice is important to the birth mother. Some women prefer a couple who is very artistic, active or homebodies. Keep your mind and heart open to all the possibilities. Sometimes the perfect couple or family for your baby isn’t what you imagined at all. Here are some steps you can follow to find an adoptive family in Florida:
- Decide what qualities you want in the adoptive parents.
- Be clear if there are family types you would never consider.
- Look through the photo profiles of families that may be a match for you.
- Decide on one or two families that feel like the best fit.
- Ask your adoption specialists to gather further information you need to make a decision.
- Once you have a match, you can speak with and meet the family.
Do You Want to Meet the Parents You Selected?
It is generally a good idea to meet the prospective parents before placement if you have chosen open adoption — even if it’s a day before you deliver the baby. Sometimes, a meeting isn’t possible because of distance and timing. But that doesn’t mean the adoption won’t work out or they aren’t the best choice for your baby.
If there are things you feel uncomfortable talking to the prospective adoptive parents about, that is OK too. Adoption counselors and professionals may speak with them directly on your behalf about topics such as pregnancy-related expenses and assistance you might need.
Get to Know the Adoptive Family You Selected
If you choose to pursue contact with the prospective parents, you may be feeling nervous about the first phone call or meeting with them. It can be helpful to have some questions in mind for that first conversation. After you’ve met or spoken, ask yourself if you trust and like the adoptive parents. You can tell a lot about someone’s character in the first few moments of meeting them. Accordingly, you should trust your instinct and ask yourself the following questions:
- What are their interests? Do you share any interests with them?
- Do you like and trust the potential adoptive parents?
- Do you share the same or similar values about family and children?
- Most importantly, are they loving and supportive of one another?
If you aren’t certain of the answers to these questions, think about them next time you talk to the adoptive parents.
Do the Potential Adoptive Parents Share Your Feelings About Open or Closed Adoption?
Lastly, you need to make sure you and the adoptive parents have the same ideas about open or closed adoption. If you are considering an open adoption, be sure to talk with them about this specifically. Successful adoption is special and lasts a lifetime. Your optimal chance for success is ensuring everyone involved has the same expectations and that these agreed-on expectations are met. Here are some questions you may want to ask the adoptive parents while you discuss the type of adoption you want:
- Why did they decide on an open/closed adoption?
- How will they talk to the child about adoption?
- What type of contact do they want with you in the future?
Remember, you are never under any obligation to go through with an adoption plan when contacting a Florida adoption professional with questions. Our adoption counselors and professionals are here to help. Call our Florida office 24/7 at 727-202-8966.
Author: Destiny Adoption Services
Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.