Mother’s Day is a time to honor mothers and everything they do for their children. On the second Sunday in May every year, people give gifts to the mothers in their lives to let them know how much they are appreciated.

One group of mothers that often go unnoticed during this holiday, however, is birth mothers. Like all mothers, birth mothers make great sacrifices for their children and deserve to be celebrated.

The History of Mother’s Day and Birth Mother’s Day

The modern American version of Mother’s Day was created by Anna Jarvis, who wanted to celebrate the efforts and sacrifices of mothers. The first official Mother’s Day celebration was held in May 1908 in West Virginia, and by 1914, President Woodrow Wilson made Mother’s Day an official national holiday.

In 1990, Mary Jean Wolch-Marsh created National Birth Mother’s Day, which falls on the Saturday before Mother’s Day. As a birth mother herself, she understood the need from her own experience. It is a perfect opportunity to celebrate and honor birth mothers and recognize their sacrifice.

Celebrating Birth Mother’s Day as an Adoptive Parent

Depending on the type of adoption and your relationship with the birth mother of your child, Birth Mother’s Day can be an excellent opportunity to get in touch — send a letter or email or make a phone call. Let your child’s birth mother know how her child is doing, and wish her a happy Birth Mother’s Day.

Gifts like flowers are nice, but pictures and notes are a far greater gift. A visit in person can also be a wonderful way to spend Birth Mother’s Day if agreed upon by all parties.

Although the holiday is a great time to contact your child’s birth mother, remember to keep her in your thoughts throughout the year. Follow up on the adoption agreement you made — it will mean the world to her and your child.

Ideas for Adopted Children on Birth Mother’s Day

As your adopted child grows older, they might want to celebrate their birth mother on Mother’s Day each year. You should encourage this act of love and help them show their appreciation.

One fantastic way for your child to show their love for their birth mother is to give her a handmade gift. A handwritten note, a drawing or even a craft project like macaroni art would make a wonderful, heart-melting gift. Get creative and help your child make a unique gift for his or her birth mother. Even infants and toddlers can help make crafty gifts using handprints or footprints.

Another fun gift your child can give their birth mother is a photo book or a photo collage. This can include pictures of your family, your child and pictures of your child with their birth mother.

Along with a lovely handmade gift, photo or card, a phone call to your child’s birth mother on Mother’s Day or Birth Mother’s Day is an excellent way to celebrate. If your child is old enough, have them make the phone call.

No matter how you choose to celebrate, the important thing is showing the birth mother of your child that she is loved and appreciated. After all, she is the reason for the greatest blessing in your life.


Author: Destiny Adoption Services

Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.