Important note about the language in this article:
As adoption professionals, we do not use the terms “Give baby up” or “put baby up” for adoption as it does not correctly describe the courage and love of a birth mother. However, because these are commonly used terms, and we want to make it easier for people to find the information they seek, we use this wording in this article.
The Adoption Process for Pregnant Women in TN
First, it’s important to decide if adoption is right for you and your child. You may want to examine your reasons for considering adoption. If you have decided that putting your baby up for adoption is the best choice, then you are ready to begin the adoption journey. Our Tennessee adoption professionals are available 24/7 to answer your questions with no obligation and complete confidentiality. Call us at (865) 392-6261.
Step One: Create Your Adoption Plan
Your adoption specialist here at Destiny works closely with you to ensure your journey unfolds as you desire. She walks with you through the entire process, taking on the roles of counselor, friend and partner. She guides and supports you while making sure you are in complete control of the decisions being made.
The adoption plan is created to outline your vision of your journey. You will be asked many questions to determine details such as:
- The type of family you want for your child.
- The amount of contact you want with the adoptive family and child after placement.
- What your hospital stay will look like.
This information is put together to make a plan that you and your specialist can follow to ensure everyone understands your wishes.
Step Two: Select a Family
This is a delicate part of ‘giving your baby up’ for adoption. Once you determine the qualities you want in a family, your specialist will match you with some families who meet your requirements. You will be shown profiles and can email, call or meet with potential parents. We have many families waiting to love your baby, and they have all been through a rigorous qualification process. They have proven their ability to care for a child and have completed a home study and a thorough background check. Our families come in all shapes and sizes, as we embrace diversity at Destiny Adoption. Because of this, we are sure you will have plenty of options to find the perfect family for your baby.
Step Three: Get Familiar with the Adoptive Family
After you select a family, it’s time to get to know them. We encourage birth moms to interact with the family so everyone understands what is expected of them. More importantly, you have the opportunity to ask questions and make sure you are comfortable with your selection. Typically, birth moms who develop a relationship with the adoptive family pre-placement feel more confident and secure in their choice. Of course, you do not have to meet or speak with them if you prefer not to, but we do recommend it for your own emotional and mental well-being.
Step Four: The Hospital Stay
There are numerous decisions to make regarding the hospital stay, and you are in full control of these decisions. You will determine things like:
- Who holds the baby first.
- How much time, if any, you want to spend with the baby.
- If you want to see or spend time with the adoptive family.
- If you want to leave the hospital with the family.
Legal documents and your consent to adoption are signed in the hospital. An adoption attorney and your specialist will ensure you fully understand the documents and agree to the terms of the adoption.
The adoption process ends here, but your adoption journey continues as you grieve and heal. Depending on the type of post-placement contact you want, you may be navigating your relationship with the adoptive family and child for a lifetime. Every situation is unique, and we offer support for our birth moms throughout and after adoption.
Contact us today to discuss your Tennessee adoption options. Call us at (865) 392-6261.
The Process When Choosing Adoption After Delivery
It is not uncommon for women to decide to place a baby for adoption late in pregnancy or even shortly after delivery. The process is similar regardless of when a birth mother chooses adoption. Typically, if the decision happens late in the pregnancy, adoption is expedited so the baby can leave the hospital with the adoptive family.
You are always in control of your adoption journey. Just like any birth mother, you determine the type of adoption you prefer (closed, open or semi-open), and you select the adoptive family. We never rush birth mothers through the creation of their adoption plan. However, in the event of a last-minute adoption decision by a birth mom, our adoption professionals will start working on the case immediately to move the process forward as quickly as necessary.
Birth Father Consent
Many women ask, “Do I need the birth father’s consent to place my child for adoption?” This question is difficult to answer in a blog post. Every circumstance is unique, and the details of each situation determine how to handle the birth father’s rights. We always encourage birth mothers to work with the birth father throughout the adoption process. However, we understand there are circumstances when this isn’t possible. Generally speaking, the father’s consent is required. But there are circumstances where the birth father’s identity is unknown, or he is unable to be located. There are specific laws regarding these scenarios. You should speak with an adoption professional to determine the correct course of action if the birth father is unavailable.
Financial and Emotional Support
When you place a child for adoption after delivery, you are still eligible to receive financial support for expenses incurred by pregnancy and birth. You can also receive counseling and emotional support for your post-adoption journey.
Why Do Some Women Wait to Choose Adoption?
There are several reasons women decide to place a child for adoption late in pregnancy or after delivery. While each situation is different, some of the common reasons include the following:
- She didn’t know she was pregnant until very late in the pregnancy.
- She kept the pregnancy a secret from friends and family.
- She was in denial about the pregnancy.
- She intended to parent and changed her mind.
- Life circumstances changed (job loss, relationship ended, housing change, etc.).
- She wasn’t sure what to do and weighed her options until late in the pregnancy or after delivery.
The important thing to note is that the adoption process for birth mothers is the same regardless of when she makes that decision. Our adoption specialists are available 24/7 to help and answer questions. If you decide to place your child for adoption late in pregnancy, or after giving birth, we can begin working on your case immediately to help ensure a smooth and successful adoption. Call us anytime at 865-392-6261.
Author: Destiny Adoption Services
Destiny Adoption Services is proud to support and guide birth parents and adoptive families on the journey of adoption. We’re a state licensed nonprofit adoption agency with four decades of adoption experience, and our professional team of experts includes moms, adoptive moms and birth mothers who provide compassion combined with trusted resources and skills.